I know, it's been a while.

A few people asked me why I haven't written lately, and I have, just not in blog form. I've taken some time to think, self-care, and re-invent myself in a few ways, some of which are still very much in flux.

Maybe it's my age and the stage of life I'm in where a lot of people around me are going through something major, whether that is writing a dissertation or getting a divorce, most of us are past the twenty-something somethings and we've moved to this place where we are asking ourselves if this is truly the path we want our lives to take, what we want our lives to really look like, are we living our calling, if there is such a thing.

We are fortunate to have the opportunity to ask ourselves these questions and therefore we have a duty to find out, to not just live life day after day in a succession of somethings that happen to us, but to actually live with intention.

I have found that the older I (read we) get, the more set in my ways I become, the less I try new things or meet new people because "it's always been this way" or "I never liked that". In a way it has to do with the undeniable fact that at this point in life I know myself better than a decade ago, but I think that if I'm not careful it can become an excuse not to grow. So here's the deal on what I've been up to, and what I am currently working on: I have given myself permission to try - that dessert, that workout, that conversation, that point of view, that blouse, that podcast...

Cheryl Strayed said in her book Tiny Beautiful Things "don't surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn't true anymore." It takes a lot of vulnerability, but let me report that so far she is correct, in the trying I have found joy.

So how about it? Who's up for finishing the year letting go of who you think you've always been and opening yourself up to more?



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